“Why do you do things so impulsively?” asked one of my friends, the other day. “Because I believe that impulsive decisions are most accurate.” I said. Giving me a weird glance, he asked “What if someday, something goes completely wrong?”
My answer was “If I keep worrying about what might go wrong, I will keep missing out on what can go right”
Almost everyday, life dishes out choices in front of us. For once, our gut tells us to go for the dicey one. But more often than not, we tend to take the safer path, the one with smaller but virtually guaranteed returns, discarding the one that we believe is riskier, either because of atrocious experience, or simply because it was less traveled. In that, we don’t realize that we are actually creating reasons to regret. Because someday, someone will take the path we discarded, and conquer it. Then, we would be left thinking “If only”
When I was starting this blog, I was warned I might end up looking outright stupid in front of everyone. My answer was,“I not doing it for anyone, but myself”. What we regret most in life is the decisions we made looking at ourselves from somebody else’s eyes. We are concerned more about What they might say? instead of How we might feel?. The day we stop thinking about ‘THEM’, and instead do what we believe, we will have less reason’s to regret. Anyone can give you suggestions, but nobody takes responsibility when they fail. If you have to make you choice, trust your instinct… you will succeed at your own merit, or fail at your own peril. Any which way, you would not regret, because you followed your heart.
Take chances, trust people, pursue your interests, fall in love… It’s true that you might be hurt. Quite a bit. You might fall, you might fail. But it’s also true that you will love, and be loved, and that carries a weight of its own. A greater weight, in my opinion. It’s like that pie chart of life. In the end, you will look back in life and see that the greatest piece of it was love, happiness and success. The problems, the failures, the breakups, the sadness… those will be there too, but just smaller slivers, tiny pieces.
Strangely though, it is for those tiny pieces that we sacrifice the chunk, while the truth is that we hardly regret things we do. Mostly, we regret ones that we didn’t – the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we took too long to make.
Don’t shun the exam, just because the subject seems difficult. By not attempting, you ruin whatever little chance you have of succeeding. Don’t be afraid to take chances, you can’t outwit fate by standing on the sidelines placing little side bets about the outcome of life. Either you wade in and risk everything you have to play the game or you don’t play at all. And if u don’t play, u can’t win.
As Steve Jobs said “Have courage to follow you heart, your gut, your instinct…. they somehow already know what is good for you”
It is up to us, whether we follow our instincts, or keep fathering regrets.
PS: Security is a superstition, anyway. You are never completely secure…. not even now.